Guys, I just took a 30 minute shower. A hot shower. And I shaved my legs. That like never happens! (Sorry hubby!)
But it’s true! Being a mom of little ones, you really don’t get the time to stop and take time for yourself. There’s never a moment that you have all to yourself during the day. Even going to the bathroom, my toddler figures out a way to pick the lock (we are keeping an eye on that one) and will stand two inches from my forehead saying “You go potty mama? Good job mama! you can do it mama!”. I’m all for the cheer-leading each other on in life, but that’s a bit much!
So how do we as moms take care of ourselves? The old saying “you can’t our from an empty cup” is so true. We can’t give to our love ones, what they truly deserve of us, if we can’t give to ourselves first.
Make self care a priority. This is my 2019 mantra. Read it. Repeat it. Chant it. Whatever. Just make you, your #1 priority. I know it’s hard. We are conditioned to go above and beyond for our kids, our spouse, our partner, our friends & extended family. We give to everyone, and when we don’t give to ourselves, we break. We meltdown and we become a subpar version of who we are made to be. Sisters, hear me, RISE UP. Take your piece of the pie. You have to or you will fall down that dark hole of depression. I know, I’ve been there, and not taking care of myself is EXACTLY how I got there.
“But I don’t have time.” Make time. You binge watched an entire season of Handmaid’s Tale in 2 days, you can carve out 1 hour for self care. “I have no one to watch my kids.” Find someone. Ask family. Don’t have family? Ask another mom in the neighborhood and trade time with her so SHE can take care of herself too. I had made all the excuses in the world so I could stay in my depression hole and hermit myself into the abyss of my couch. Where did that get me? Nowhere but miserable, sad and 100+ pounds overweight.
This is my year. The year I take back my life and reclaim my self love, self worth and happiness. I didn’t start out this motivated, I had to FORCE myself off the couch, slap the remote out of my own hand and just do it. Once I started and once I got over the big feelings of “I should be spending this time on my kids instead” a whole new world opened for me.
Because I take care of myself, I am a better mom for my kids. I have more energy to play with them. More motivation to take them out to do things. I feel human and happy and actually care about, well, me. Don’t get me wrong. I still have my down days too, and I think that’s just part of being human, but if you are feeling worthless, and like you don’t matter in this world, change it. I promise you, the feelings that come with self care are SO worth it.
Till next time,